The things that I have learned in this Parenting Skills class that I am going to work on implementing into my parenting skills repertoire are mostly focused on two major things that I learned in this class. One of those is emotional coaching. The other is the effective punishment elements. I feel that these would be very useful in my parenting bag of skills. I don’t see myself using the second one very often but I feel it is good thing to have when you are needing something of that caliber. While I do see myself using the emotional coaching more than the elements of effective punishment. I am glad that I have learned both things in this class. I know that using these lessons in my parenting will help make me a better parent and one that is more relatable for my children.
The emotional coaching, I have seen several places and I
have tried to implement it with my children but it has always sounded fake or insincere
when I have tried to use it on them. I am wondering if I just need to practice
going through the steps and that with time it will come more naturally and
easily to me to help them work through their emotions and validate the way that
they are feeling. I’ve seen it several times on Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood but
I didn’t realize at the time that what the adults were doing was called
emotional coaching. I struggle with emotions myself and so to turn around and
coach someone else still seems a bit silly in my mind but I don’t want my
children to grow up feeling like they can’t fully express their emotions and
that everyone has emotions sometimes and that it really is ok to talk about
them. I have heard some people mock others on talking about their emotions and
at the time it did seem a bit silly to talk about emotions but at the same time
I am wondering if the person who was talking about their emotions wasn’t
possibly going about it in the wrong way. When I see the coaching going on during
Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood it doesn’t feel silly or like the children are
being overly dramatic about what they are feeling and the adults that are
helping them don’t push the children either. This technique of helping children
work through their emotions and helping them realize that all people have
emotions is a good thing.
The elements for effective punishment are different for me
to use because it goes through a series of steps of things that you should say
as the parent towards your child. When you run through scenarios using these
elements it really drives the point home of how the child is in trouble, what
was expected of them, the parent’s disappointment, and then what the punishment
will be. I like that all the different elements are broken down and spelled
out. As a kid I sometimes felt that the only reason why I was in trouble was
because a parent was having a bad day and I did some little thing that was
annoying and so set them off and now I am being punished for it, no lesson was
learned other than be wary of bad moods, and how do you correct that behavior
other than sit down and shut up, which isn’t really a solution at all. I don’t
have plans on implementing this in my daily life. I have pretty well-behaved
children as a general rule and we do understand one another. I am thinking that
this would be handy to know so that if you are ever faced with a situation like
this you know the steps to take to make it known what happened, how it went
wrong, what can be done to correct it, and what the punishment will be.
Learning about emotional coaching and elements of effective
punishment I am hoping will let me take another step forward in my parenting
skills. Using emotional coaching will help me to relate to and be a better
parent for my children. Using the element of effective punishment will help me
when the need does arise for me to reprimand my children and correct their
course that they find themselves on. These two main lessons that I have learned
about during my parenting skills class I feel will be the best lessons that I
will work on implementing and using in my life.
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